On caring

My mom, Doris, left, and aunt, Dolores, flank my grandpa, Raymond. And yes, my mom is an identical twin.

I’m watching my mother spoon a “magic cup” into my grandpa’s mouth. It’s ice cream with nutrients and protein laced throughout; “magic cup” sounds more enticing. This is the state of things at home in Wichita, I’m afraid.

My grandpa is 87-years-old. After being hospitalized for an issue or three in the autumn, he now spends his time in a rehab facility. It’s a temporary nursing home, really, a place to learn how to become mobile again. My parents, my mom’s siblings and my grandma take turns keeping vigil 4-8 hours at a time. It’s been like this for months, a schedule made out for every day of the week, and it could continue for months more.

He doesn’t say much, but he was never one to gab. My sister and I visited him a few nights ago and he awoke long enough to faintly nod hello and mouth goodbye. When words are so few, this suddenly becomes very meaningful.

One response to “On caring”

  1. […] He was 87 years old. It wasn’t a dramatic exit; he’s been constantly in and out of hospitals and care facilities for the past 6 months. My immediate and extended families have carried the burden by keeping vigil with him in shifts. The role of parental caretaker, even if split between siblings, is brutal. I wrote about it in January. […]

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